Thank you@Former-Member  We just had dinner .. a bit late .. but my son needed a lot of focus & strength to get enough dishes done and to make space for me to cook .. but God I love him .. 

Yes I am getting better at "course correct"  I have a new term!

Perhaps the degree of injury was so significant .. it is easy to knock the scab off and expose the full extent of the wound.

I understand boundaries a lot better than when I first joined the forum.