How To: Recovery Focused Posting
Hi there SANE Forums Fam!
This how-to guide was designed to help you post to the forums and create safety for yourself and others when talking about those tough topics, such as suicidal ideation and self-harm related thoughts and urges.
We hope that this guide will help you to share safely about thoughts of suicide and self-harm, and seek support from others who understand what you are going through.
What is recovery focused posting?
When we talk about posting in a way that is recovery-oriented or recovery focused, we are encouraging posting in a way that protects both you, and the community. We let the community know what we need, so that it means even on the tough days, we are all here to support each other's safety and well-being.
What it is -
a way to communicate our needs so we can get the right support
all about keeping the community safe
a way for us all to keep working on building our resilience and capacity
What it isn't -
about banning or forbidding discussion of the difficult topics
a requirement to 'always be positive' or to pretend we're feeling okay when we're not
a restriction on sharing big, dark, or difficult feelings
Having a 'recovery focus' is all about highlighting our needs, what's worked for us before, and what may or may not be helpful for us now. It helps reduce confusion and concern, helps reduce anxiety for members reading along, and reduces the risk of us triggering or getting triggered. It can even be empowering for us, in helping us learn to identify our support and recovery needs and practice communicating them to the people around us.
Here are some examples of ways we can make our posts recovery focused:
For many members and readers here on the SANE Forums, thoughts of suicide and struggles with self-harm are a common part of their mental health or life journey. It's often difficult to talk about these topics, so we want folks to feel like they can be open about what they're going through - without the risk of accidentally encouraging each others rumination or risky behaviours.
If you are thinking about suicide, reaching out for support and talking about it is an important step to make sure that you get the right help when you need it most. The forums offers a judgement-free space to express ourselves, and we want to continue to encourage people to feel safe in sharing their story here. Creating a safe community starts with how we use our language.
Safe language is important because:
It allows others to feel capable and comfortable with providing us with support.
It can protect others from common triggers and help someone else who is sitting with thoughts of suicide too.
How we talk about suicide in the Forums is important for you, and for your fellow community members.
Before you post to the Forums
The SANE Forums are a peer support community where most of the support is provided by peers. This makes it a great place to seek support from others who understand what you are going through.
It's important to note though, the SANE Forums cannot provide crisis support. We have put together some questions you can ask yourself before posting to work out whether it’s the SANE Forums or a crisis service that might be the best option for you in the moment (adapted from the Chatsafe online resource).
Where is the right place/service for me to ensure I get the right help at the right time?
If you are thinking about suicide, it’s important to get the right help at the right time.
We have a flow chart to help you decide where the right place or service might be for you to seek help. This includes when it is okay to post to the SANE Forums, or when crisis services or emergency support might be the best avenue get the support you need.
As a peer-to-peer support service, the SANE Forums can’t provide crisis support
This is because:
Most of the peer support that is offered across the forums comes from other members just like you. In a crisis, or when you are feeling unsafe, it is important that help comes from people who are trained to provide crisis support.
The nature of online forums mean that replies aren’t instant. This means you may not get the help exactly when you need it. We do have Moderators and Peer Support Workers online 24/7 to monitor posts and offer support when needed, but the nature of forums means we can’t always be as responsive as you might need in a crisis. That’s where phone or webchat crisis supports are a good option to get timely support.
Language can be ambiguous or interpreted in different ways in online, which is why when we are concerned that someone might be thinking about suicide, we check in via post or email, and refer to crisis support
What am I hoping to get out of sharing my story? (aka: my purpose and needs)
People talk about experiences of suicide for many reasons. This includes seeking help and support for thoughts of suicide, to raise awareness, or to support another person who might be going through something similar. There are lots of different reasons. Understanding your reason/purpose will help you work out the right avenue to meet your needs.
What parts of my story am I comfortable to share and how will I feel when I share? (aka: my privacy and wellbeing)
We all have different boundaries around how much of ourselves and our story we feel comfortable to share in a public space.
Ensuring you feel safe to share when talking about thoughts of suicide is important, whether that is in an online space, a private space (eg: with a counsellor or mental health professional), or with a trusted person in our lives.
How can I write my story in a way that ensures I get the support I need AND is safe for others reading?
Think about how you would write your story and whether you are in a space to be able to write in a way that is safe for all to read.
We have some tips to help you do this. You can also look at our Community Guidelines.
How can I write about thoughts of suicide safely?
Let the community know that you are safe:
If you are posting about suicide, and are safe, then include that in your post. For example: “I have been coping with thoughts of suicide, but I am safe. I am looking for support from my peers”;“Today has been really difficult, and I don’t know if I can keep doing this, but I am safe tonight and will reach out to a helpline if I feel I need to” or; “I am someone who lives with thoughts of suicide each day, but if they get worse tonight I will go for a walk and speak with a friend. I am safe for now” If you aren’t feeling safe, it’s time to log off the forums and access crisis support.
Use safe language:
Our words have power, and it’s important that we use trauma safe language when talking about suicide on the forums. By trauma safe language, we mean language that is not graphic, upsetting or triggering for others to read. This includes staying away from graphic detail including means or plans, and making sure you are clear and direct about your current safety.
Use trigger warnings:
Help other forum members make an informed decision about whether to read on by including a trigger warning. You might add TW: mentions suicide in your title, or include Trigger warning: mentions thoughts of suicide in the first line of your post.
Avoid mentioning methods of suicide:
Many members of the forums may have experience of suicidal thoughts, feelings or behaviours, and might be triggered, upset or impacted by mentions of methods. Instead, remove the methods of suicide and replace with more general statements such as “I think about action to end my life”, or “I have had thoughts of methods before”. You can still get your story across without listing the method.
Let the community know what support you are looking for/what you need:
You know what you need best, and letting others know means they can provide more effective support to you when you need it most.
For example: “I just need someone to sit with me right now”, “I would like some suggestions” or, “I need some distraction”
I often hear Moderators/Peer Workers ask the question “Are you feeling safe for now?”. What does it mean?
If we have reason to believe that you might be thinking about suicide, we will check in to see how you are feeling, and whether you are currently thinking about suicide. You may hear us ask if you are safe, but safety can mean many things, so let’s define what we mean in the context of suicide.
“Are you safe for now?”:
If we are concerned that you might be thinking about suicide, we will ask you if you are safe for now. What we mean is, are you planning to act on thoughts of suicide now?
"I am safe for now":
If you are safe for now, we will encourage you to reach out and seek peer support through the forums. There are a lot of other people here sitting with thoughts of suicide too who know what it’s like to take steps towards safety.
For many people, thoughts of suicide can be ongoing, so we may ask a few times as safety might change from hour to hour, or day to day. That’s why we say safety for now, as we are trying to understand your immediate safety and offer appropriate support.
This is especially important in public online spaces where we don’t have the same communication options as we would in real life settings.
It can be really helpful to have a safety plan prepared for times when you might have thoughts of suicide, which will help you take steps to seek help or safety. Beyondnow is a great online tool to help you build a safety plan.
"I am not able to stay safe":
If you tell us you are not able to stay safe, we will ask you to confirm if you are planning to end your life and if you have a plan. This will happen off the forums and via email.
If you aren't able to or aren't sure that you can stay safe, this is when it is time to step off the forums and access immediate crisis support. In an emergency, the best place to seek help is to call 000, or go to your local emergency department.
As a mental health service, SANE can be a safe space to share if you are feeling unsafe, and we will get emergency help to you.
As mandatory reporters, if a forum member tells us or indicates that they are in serious and imminent risk of harm, including planning to end their life now, then we do contact emergency services. This is an important part of ensuring the safety and wellbeing of those who access our services.
Mandatory reporting is (as the name suggests) mandatory by law, which ensures that every health service, including SANE, are looking out for the safety and wellbeing of the people we support.
When might Moderators, Community Managers or Peer Support Workers step in?
The SANE Forums team may step in when a post breaches our safety guidelines, and could impact the safety of the person posting or the wellbeing of those reading.
We will remove or edit posts that mention or imply:
A person intends to end their life, or doesn’t confirm safety in a way that could be upsetting for those reading. This includes where there are ambiguous mentions or inferences to suicide without confirming safety.
Methods of suicide or self harm
Graphic descriptions
Check out the suggestions earlier in this post to help you stay within the guidelines.
We will email members to:
Check in to see if a member is safe for now and offer referrals to crisis support
Check in with others who may have been upset by something they have read on the forums
Let members know if a post is removed or edited
Offer suggestions of how to bring posts back in line with the guidelines
Let a member know if we are involving emergency services, if doing so doesn't put the person at further risk of harm
SANE has a responsibility to keep the Forums safe for everyone. This means that there may be times we will need to make tough decisions to remove a post, email you about the guidelines, or pause an account.
If we are concerned about your safety, we want to make sure you have access to crisis services, and we will refer to options such as:
National crisis services such as Lifeline (13 11 14) and Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467). You can find a list of crisis services at the top of every page on the SANE Forums.
000 in an emergency
SANE’s other support services
Other services specific to your situation (eg: 1800Respect, BlueKnot, Mensline…)
Summary
Here are the key points:
It’s important we can talk about topics like suicide and self-harm here on the forums
How we talk about suicide is key to creating safety for the person posting, and those reading
Using safe language, trigger warnings and letting the community know you are safe, and what you need, can help ensure you get the help you deserve, while also looking out for the community
SANE staff may reach out to ask if you are safe and offer referrals to crisis supports. We may also remove posts that breach our safety guidelines around talking about suicide
If you are unsafe and at imminent and serious risk of harm, we are required by law to get emergency help to you
Thanks for reading along folks 😊
