Grief & loss - may be triggering

[Former-Member]

Oh this stuff is really hard @Adge, my parent's estate is up in the air atm, well dad's still alive but the dementia has taken his real grip on things. The guardianship board will manage it for us here when the day comes.

Have you contacted
https://www.fairwork.gov.au/awards-and-agreements/awards/list-of-awards

I dont know what else to
say to help. Hopefully your weekend will restore some sense of empowerment back. Do something nice for yourself 🙂

[TAB]

Hi again @Adge so sorry re your post. Im looking at similar things when remaining parent dies. Sounds like something most likely very unhelpful/ useless/ planned to deny me any even equal share with 2 siblings who have millions on millions and another one owns a house and has a job for life. Im renting have next to no super no savings etc and years ago was talk of giving me ok the more needy more than equal share. Think the rest of them have been busy behind scenes and I might end up getting less than them now as they are ‘deserving’ although dont need it and I am ‘undeserving’so sounds like all sorts of caveats may be in store for me ie meaning I wont get a cent. Anyway. Was trying to compare with your situation and hi 👋 @Former-Member 😀

[Faith-and-Hope]

Feeling for all of you ..... it’s hard.  

My Dad has made provision for my bother and sister cos they are in greater need than me ..... and while I can only take my sister in small doses, there isn’t the sort of in-fighting you guys are contending with .....

Hearing you.

@Adge @Former-Member @TAB

[Adge]

Thanks @Former-Member@TAB@TAB

Yes similar disputes & family conflicts, unfortunately.

I'm having a very rough W/E, especially all of today.

Very badly (severely) dissociated.

I'm already (also) Dyslexic - so with both at once, I can often barely express the words, type or hand-write without great effort (even though a good touch-typist)...

The words just won't come out (& the letters get jumbled up).

It took me over 10 minutes, just to type this out...

Adge

[TAB]

Um probably same re small doses and sister @Faith-and-Hope anyway I try not to think about it. It does ‘fall out’ sometimes tho.. 😀 and thanks

[TAB]

Ohh sorry @Adge I feel a bit like that sometimes re nothing works well I blame the phone lol

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope, @Adge, @TAB - it helps to know we're understood / not alone in the 'family dynamic' crapola... Its only money. Or is it.

Adge, i'm really worried about you given what you said earlier. It would be good if you weren't slone at these times. Are you any better tonight? Please check in soon ❤🐦

[TAB]

I would probably say its not just about money, it’s about power, control, entitlement etc @Former-Member Anyway I’d rather not think about it at the moment. If people are deciding my future without my knowledge and they are, well there’s not much I can do about it except choose not to worry about it by blocking it out and just trying to get on with life. A couple things indirectly related happened today that are making me feel really bad just now. Think that’s what happens when ‘blinkers’ are removed. Just got to forget it and keep moving . Its just survival sometimes

[Former-Member]

I understand @TAB, its also betrayal & it hurts. I get that. I have to keep reminding myself that this type of wicked behaviour toward me, from my sister in particular - its more about her than me, in fact - i'd say its got very little to do with me. I reckon greed & grief makes people even more !mad' than usual.

I'm over it ... well, try to be, lol

[TAB]

True @Former-Member but its the other side as well like what did I do with my life that I need to rely on an inheritance ..
Anyway, as I said I am better off not thinking about it