Where Has My Favourite Person Gone? Understanding Absences in Our Community

[ArraDreaming]

What the hellllllll

[Gibbs]

@Bunniekins if that is your wish I understand and wish you all the very best. I was really worried that you were OK. I really thought that we had a good relationship and some fun. Sad that it has happened now as I really needed your messages this weekend to help me survive the Easter weekend. I really can't understand why you feel the way you do. I thought we so supportive of each other. I will include you in some of my messages if that is OK. Might even send one about Alone if you are still an avid fan.😘.take care. 

[Sparky79]

@Bunniekins Good on you for having the strength to identify what's wrong, speaking out and setting those boundaries. You know what your body mind and soul needs, and it will thank you for listening. Don't be afraid to reach out to any of us if you need to.

[Gibbs]

@Sparky79 @Bunniekins i don't disagree with you Sparky. I sincerely hope that bunny is fine. Please understand i always wanted the best and be supportive. I am shattered that a good friend will not message me considering we messaged a lot. 

[Sparky79]

@Gibbs you have my sympathy, I have been in a similar situation myself. Chin up, you have been respectful and have a good heart. Actually I have been on both sides of the fence, having to set those boundaries and respecting others boundaries. I've mentioned a few time in other posts, you can't control some things, but you can control how you see them and react to them. Look for the good side and you will find it, have gratitude for the good memories and any lessons (sounds better than saying bad memories).

[Gibbs]

@Sparky79 thanks for your thoughts 

[ENKELI]

@Mathew76 I'm a little confused regarding your post about "slamming"

If a user has been slammed then I agree with you wholeheartedly. However, I have not seen this being done.

I'm not sure that you understand the reason behind this thread, apologies if I have it wrong though.
My main thing was that if you are chatting with someone regularly and they all of a sudden disappear there is the need to know whether that person has gone because they were banned, or whether something has happened to them.
I'm sure you can understand how that can cause upset and this is by no means slamming or clinging to one particular person.
All I asked for was an answer - if a person has gone why can't Sane advise that that user is no longer on the forum. No explanation needed, just clarification. I spent ages messaging someone who was no longer on the forums and it set me back in my own journey quite a bit. Whether the forum is for connection or not, we are only human and will connect with others regardless.

I also don't understand what you mean by "up hold basic decency." Are you able to give an example where this has not been the case?

Thanks so much and apologies for the delay in responding.