Family

[Tarmac_6]

I’m struggling a bit at the moment with anger towards my family. I love them and have a mostly good relationship but I have also had problems with them in the past. I started struggling with my mental health when I was 14 and so did my twin sister. Without going into too much detail my sister was hospitalised and for like two years of my life my parents pretty much had to give all their attention to her. My parents both work full time so I completely understand it and that’s just how the situation was. I have never and still don’t talk about my depression and anxiety with any of them due to this time of my life. I feel like my sisters especially always make comments that they have gone through more than me or that I feel sorry for myself all the time and need to feel like I’m the only person in the world who feels this way (it’s hard not to be negative when I’m in a depressive episode but I also know that I’m lucky and I don’t think I have the hardest life). I just feel like they get so much understanding from each other and my parents and I don’t and it frustrates me. I know if I told them everything that they’d probably be more understanding but I don’t want to have to give them that information. I just want to know if I’m being too dramatic and hard on my sisters/parents? Do I need to give them more leeway? 

[tyme]

Welcome to the forums @Tarmac_6 ,

I'mn sorry to hear about the challenges you are experiencing. I'm hearing the part and parcel of being a twin. I've seen something similar quite a lot when it comes to twins.

Your feelings are valid and I hear how hard it has been for you for a long time - especially as you watch your twin.

Whether someone's situation is 'worse' than someone else's or not, the emotional challenges that come with it can be felt.

I'd encourage you to reach out to someone to go through some of what you have experienced as a way to unpack and work through it.

We're here to support and encourage you. 

I hear it's not easy.

Have you used SANE Guided Recovery before? https://www.sane.org/referral

[Charlie17]

@tarmic

[Charlie17]

@Tarmac_6 sorry I think I pressed post before I was ready. 

Sounds like you need some validation. That's not being dramatic. Your feelings are real. It sounds really hard. 

I am hear if you'd like to chat more. 

[tyme]

Hey there @Charlie17 , good to see you again.

[Tarmac_6]

Thankyou @Charlie17. I just feel so alone sometimes cause no one knows exactly what I’m going through. I think in order to get the validation I need I would have to open up to the people around me but that doesn’t feel like something I’m ready for yet. 

[Tarmac_6]

No I haven’t seen that before but thankyou for sharing it with me @tyme. I am in therapy at the moment but it’s hard when I feel like I only have someone to talk to about it once every two weeks and then everything goes back inside again. I know I need to probably do more for myself and reach out to others but it’s a really back challenge for me.

[Charlie17]

Take your time. It's good to have awareness of your readiness.