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Anniversary after cheating

Manama
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Anniversary after cheating

Today I woke up feeling amazing about life, I finally had a night I slept like I had no worries in the world, then about 30 minutes later I realised the date.

I have been with my partner for 11 years today and I wished him a happy anniversary as he was working.

Recently my partner had emotionally cheated and obviously we "worked" through it enough for me to stay but also we have a family together so that helped in the decision.

Anyways after I sent him the message I got a heart reaction and nothing more, he called when he got off of work but not one thing was mentioned about the date but he did bring up the girl he had the affair with.

In context he was letting me know that she had reached out to speak to me and I know he is trying to be honest and open about everything going forward but it just hurts that 11 years together essentially isn't that memorable to him.

I hate these feelings like I'm not important enough for him and I have been told multiple times to leave but I can't just leave someone I am in love with, someone I have given 11 years of my life to.

I want to tell him how hurt I am and how alone he makes me feel but I don't know how to word it without sounding like I'm nagging.

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Re: Anniversary after cheating

Hi there @Manama ,

 

Thank you for sharing about what's been going on for you. It sounds so hard that at a time when things are usually celebrated, you are remembering some unfotunate events. 

 

Does your partner know how are you feeling at this time?

Re: Anniversary after cheating

I haven't told him exactly but I know he heard me crying on the phone.
After the cheating I told him being celebrated on special occasions is important to me so he knows how I feel about celebrations